Anyway, I strolled through our wonderful writing workshop Facebook group (ooohhh....alliteration.....) and I was intrigued by their Five Things lists. It was a fun way to get to know little tidbits about them, so I wanted to include my own. This rebel wrote six instead.
- I'm not a fan of apathy or laziness (unfortunately, this is also where "you spot it, you got it" applies). Apathy pisses me off; it was the trigger for my last book, Class Letters (coming soon!). But it keeps me involved with people who help me stay sane. They remind me that I have tools and that I don't have to kill anyone today because of their apathy (please get a job.....please go to school.....please grow the fuck up). Tomorrow may be a different story. I, myself, have a touch of laziness in my persona. I'm working on it....
- I'm sensitive. Ugh. I hate writing that but it's true. Have you ever done the True Colors test at work? 100% blue here. 100%! Or Myers-Briggs, if you prefer: INFP. Thank God for anti-depressants. But catch me on a bad day....with the wrong thing.....and you may be in for a downpour....or at least a few sprinkles. And it can get to me if someone doesn't answer texts or calls. I don't mean text-me-back-in-fifteen-minutes-or-I'll-assume-you-hate-me kind of way. I mean days (or hours in The Husband's case which is "days" in couple-time). On the other hand....really, people? You can't answer one fucking text? Even if it's just to say, "I'm busy. I don't hate you. TTYL."?? I know texts occasionally get lost in cyberspace, but ignoring them is bad manners.
- I hate negativity. Uh....that actually sounds negative. Take two: I love positivity! It drains me to be around a lot of negative stuff....and I'm not too crazy about drama either. Which is yet another reason why I'm so grateful to be "retired" from teaching. I believe that words have power, and when you fill your life with negativity, you only attract more of it. Negativity and victim-hood/martyrdom go hand in hand. Gratitude works wonders.
- I may not think things all the way through, but I'm never deliberately mean. Sometimes, emails or texts (without the virtue of face-to-face tone, body language or voice inflections) can be misconstrued. I make mistakes from time to time, but the thought of intentionally hurting someone makes me cringe. On the flipside, if I am the recipient of thoughtless or rude behavior repeatedly, you will no longer be a part of my life. I'll be cordial, but I won't spend much time with you. I deserve better.
- I'm not a fan of unsolicited advice and I try not to give it unless asked. This is something I've had to work on, because I was the Great All-Knowing, All-Seeing Claire. I knew exactly what was needed in another's life and offered this profound insight on a regular basis. Eventually, I realized that I didn't know shit about anyone's life, including mine. So, again with the help of my loving support system, I relinquished my title, and let the one with the true power guide my life -- and everyone else's. I still slip every now and then; I'm still a work in progress.
- This is number six but I thought it was important to include: I smoke and cuss. Yes, smoking is a nasty, expensive, completely unhealthy habit and I would love to quit (sorta) like my fabulous inspiration/friend Jules. It is a hope, a dream, a goal...and very difficult. I've done it before, and I can do it again. The cussing? Well, I just don't see myself quitting that any time soon!
So there you have it -- six things you damn well better know about me (I don't say "darn" unless I'm mending socks).
Are there five (or six) things I should know about YOU? What are they?
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